Friday, April 29

After a long time ...


I do not exactly remember when I posted anything on my blog. However, I hope to continue. I am missing a person who really made me blog here. "Hey! Ours is a perfect case of being there and being unavailable simultaneously. Who says that we have forgotten each other? We have not and are still there. We both have suffered alone and traversed the longest journeys of our lives, but never communicating. Who stopped us? No one! Who will break the ice? No one! And who will tell both of us that we still need each other? No one.......But we will keep on fighting against odds, both alone in a world divided by implicit boundaries raised by no one but our egos." I believe that we have compartmentalised ourselves. 'You stay your ground and I stay mine. We are there, and we aint.' I am a changed man but for better. No doubt, it is all because of MYSELF and for ME only. We are dreading each other from sitting face to face though there is nothing to be apprehensive about. We know about each other........... where we are and what are we doing? I know you are facing the same old problems, but I have more problems. Interestingly, I cannot share my problems with any one, because those are mine. After these years, I believe no one can understand what I want to say. And probably you have many many people to do that. This depicts your flexibility, and I have become more rigid despite a few years have been added to my life. Many a time, theories are meant for books only and to be appreciated by those who have not tasted life. What else should I say....... I know you will come up with something. Secondly, I am back NIDO and Million Dollar Man in Spain.... NIDO needs interesting write-ups, and MDM is for Heart-To-Heart Talk though 'sells goods of multinational companies and NIDO is from Communication. The former is always looking for H2HTs, while the latter being extremely sensitive keeps up different appearances. Asi! I told you to avoid H2HTs but you fell in a very very deep rather an unfathomable ditch. Now you are desperately trying to reach the brim, while holding on to the weakest of straws artificially clinging to a rot wooden stem. However, you stay steadfast and I assure you success. Enough for today...........

Monday, September 22

Do we have any limit to our intolerance?

Our society, comprising people who are more educated and affluent now, but they are equally intolerant to each other. Over a period, it has been observed that they are becoming more and more intolerant, and quite a few have either become or are on the verge of becoming radicalists. One can meet a lot of well-educated people, working in multinational companies, but they endorse suicide attacks, and are bent upon promoting one sect of Islam, while rejected others all together. In certain cases, they reach the extent of favoring elimination of others, if their insistence upon changing one’s sect does not help in ‘mending or correcting’ them. The religious lot is not only an utter failure rather they have further deepened this division, which is also done in order to have their grip further strengthened by promoting their own agenda of deep hatred so that they could be considered as ‘men of great honour’. On the other hand, our attitude towards family members, both immediate and distant, friends, colleagues and society at large, is if not condemnable then certainly not good, which imparts an impression of a society which by and large an intolerant one. We are not ready to accept others’ apologies what to talk of foregoing of mistakes. The educated disdain the uneducated or lesser educated, so-called enlightened reject other by asserting that the others do not have depth. One can be crude in his expressions, while they are considered worthless by the intelligentsia disparagingly. Now this behaviour is evident among the youth too, who are obviously following into the footsteps of their elders. This is continuing unabatedly in each stratum of the society. Only those are tolerant to each other who have certain interest weaved into their lives, social and businesses too. Politicians take the lead in this regard. Despite apparent differences, they are deeply connected to each other, like the businessmen, who have inter-marriages despite rivalries. In an overall scenario, the middle class is sustaining its resentments to the last, while the upper class makes hay under all circumstances.

Thursday, September 18

Valuing the departed ones! … Why not in their lives!


We, as a society, have developed an attitude of honoring and remembering the dead ones, instead of the living ones. Is it because of the fact that we consider people more precious after they leave this world? On occasions, one can see people thronging graveyards, showering flowers and praying. Quite a few have wet eyes, while the others give a somber look! One can see visible pain on everybody face, which is further augmented by any festive occasion. Do we value people when they are alive? We might be, but again the question is: Do we as much as we do afterwards? The answer would be a big NO! And if we know this, then we must change our attitudes towards our fellow beings! We have a sort of tradition now that we don’t condemn the dead ones, asserting that ‘his matters are with Allah now; so we must leave it to Him (Allah).’ May be a good attitude for quite a few, but others believe that criticising or condemning should be continued so that the living ones should know that people would hurl abuses at them even after their deaths; so they should mend themselves in this world as well. But good ones should be certain that they would be praised even afterwards, while remembering them good way whenever talking about them. Ideally it would be good to keep people, good or bad, in mind even during their lifetime. Can we do it instead of mourning after their deaths?

Wednesday, September 17

Replacement of human beings as quick as gadgets


Everyday inventions in mobile, computer and other technologies are making people buy new gadgets with equal speed. Prior to the launching of any brand, especially mobile, it is talk of the world, and search engines’ traffic reaches its peak. The iPhone6 is the recent example. But on the other hand, do we realise how quickly we change people too. Even the indispensable lot is replaced certain other persons, while in relations, someone replaces the other. Will we stop somewhere? Do we really value people? Even an answer in positive would carry a big question mark. Now friendship are replaced with more friendship, may be to last little duration than the previous ones. One can see another trend among people now. He would befriend you, then after some time move on your friends, and one fine day you would find that your friend is closer to that person, and he is sort of manipulating his own way up. This cycle will continue till the person is exposed of being an opportunist. Beware of them!

Tuesday, September 16

Sects of religions are profitable outlets for their founders and proponents


All religions of the world have multiple sects, and now one can find everyday new sects coming to the fore from the existing ones, which is further dividing people into different layers. Moreover, these sects are becoming more and more radical in their practices, interpretations and inventions to the religion, leaving little for dissent. And if one questions them, he is labeled as an infidel, and even fatwas (decrees) are issued against them. It is a perfect example of self-aggrandisement by using religious interpretations. These sects are strengthened by domestic and foreign fundings. First it starts with ‘requests’ for opening a mosque or a madressah (religious school), which acts as a platform for propagating their particular ideology. The followers or Mureeds contribute according to their bank balance, while the rich with bigger financial interests outside the sect gather influence to warding the government machinery off, and thwart any threats to their business interest. Also, these sects look for unattended prime lands to construct places for religious prayers ostensibly – India and Pakistan lead in this regard – while the followers never question the forcible possessions either since they feel protected under the umbrella. Its next level is of either getting illegal possessions vacated upon a payment of at least 30 per cent of the total prize of the land, or deal is matured by getting the papers signed in their own favour, which is considered to be the most liked manner since the grabbers can claim that they have bought the ‘booty’. Whenever such religious outfits have to hold a congregation, their teams reach out to the ‘targetted’ businessmen and others for getting the grants. In Karachi and Mumbai this is the most likeable manner of extortion. Where is the writ of the government? The state machinery seems to be sleeping and even if one is harshly woken up, it turns blind eye to it, and never realising that it is actually a breeding ground for tomorrow since the social fabric is torn to threads by these religious mantra speakers, who love to create divisions-within-divisions to enhance their influence. On the other hand, foreign countries are also helping their followers to enhance the influence of a particular sect. Recently, in the remote Southern Punjab, in a road-side restaurant, a man was openly discussing a plan to construct a Medressah and construct a mosque in his village. Though apparently he himself was a person of reasonable means, but he was certain that he would get money from some of his foreign ‘friends’ which not only would be enough to run the mosque and the seminary for next ten years rather would also help in multiplying his wealth, while the state organs would not dare him question too. No doubt, with this, he would be given more ‘respect’ and gather influence in the society. Ultimately, the only aim of the founders and proponents seem to be fattening their bank balances, and gaining influence; it is no way a favour to the humanity, and to any religion. Political hobnobbing is part and parcel of it, and one can find a lot of politicians, bureaucrats and men in uniform being part of such religious outfits. At this point, it seems that majority of people are part of one sect or of another group. Its last stage is a proxy war, which is and are being fought on one ground of any country or another, ultimately to the trouble of the masses and benefit of a few.

Monday, September 15

Self-proclaimed leaders … laboratories of character flaws!


Do we have leaders in its true sense? Can anyone name even a single person from the present lot, who stand even a chance to be considered as a leader. It carries a big question mark. Is there anyone who can be given clean chit? No one at all! If one is accused of massive corruption (Asif Ali Zardari), then his closest rival Nawaz Sharif has so many allegations in his kitty – from a dictator’s stooge to incapability (not strange for any such men of Khaki), from corruption to family-democracy, from … to … anything and everything. He is closely followed by cricketer-turned-politician Imran Khan, who can certainly be incorruptible financially in his personal capacity, but morally he can be little less shallow than the rest. What message would it be for ordinary people of Pakistan …… Your PM has fathered an illicit child. Who is not familiar with Maulana Diesel fame Jehad-seller? He is one of the greatest champions of democracy these days. Next to him is gentleman from Balochistan Mahmood Khan Achakzai, who turned his province into the land of the ignorant by not letting education reaching doors of the ordinary, but he preaches for ‘democratic nobility’ (read dictatorial ignominy) in the federal capital. We also have Asfandyar Wali, whose party ANP ruled the KPK during the last democratic spell, but his stay in the European countries was longer than in his own country. I think people have not forgotten his ‘pro-Pakistan service’ taking big money from India for working against the Kalabagh Dam. By the way, his mother has formed her own party. People still remember Jama’at-e-Islami’s history of stabbing in the back of democratic dispensations, and the worst (read bloody) role of its youth wing Islami Jamiat Talba. The military men and their children are already in the field and making their mark. The second tier leadership is also following into the footsteps of their top leaders. The Khawajas, the Mians, the Chaudharys, the Qureshis, the Makhdooms ……… the land of the pure (read poor) is being run by a few families. Now they all are preparing a next generation of leaders from their families. Bilawal Zardari, Hamza Shahbaz, Maryam Nawaz, Ch Moonis Elahi, Suleman Shahbaz, Asif Bhutto ……….. the line is pretty long, and quite a few of them have already surpassed their elders in the feats of corruption and moral turpitude. Luckily perhaps, females are so far lagging far behind to their male counterparts or I would rather not comment on them. To cap it all, they all have a background which is tainted by moral turpitude. Who has not been a womaniser? Someone has illicit children (Imran Khan); someone (Nawaz Sharif) is still offering his services to be find good boyfriends for a foreign correspondent (Jim Baraker); someone is known as a house-beaker (Shahbaz Sharif), and now the usual advice to new entrants in bureaucracy and politics is advised against taking their wives and daughters to their family functions. Now the situation has reached to such an extent that pointing it out as a negative trait of character is advised to be ignored as if it is a routine matter. Leaders do such things … is the usual rhetoric. This is only a brief of what our leaders are like. Much more is there! Where would true leaders be in Pakistan? I usually think …..

Fakeness is the call of the day … a disease becoming epidemic!

Earlier it used to be a prerogative of female actors but now one can find even ordinary people feigning ‘fakeness’ in their routine life though posing to be hugely real. It has made them look more dubious, and their listeners become restless, while waiting for the moment when they would either stop talking or kind enough to leave. Their facial expressions are not in correspondence to their minds and hearts; resultantly their talk has no effect on the listeners. Moreover, with narrowed eyes, lined foreheads and unusually frequent movement of hands make them target of public ridicule. Do they realise this? Perhaps not since their effort is to look different and pose themselves as big shots. In the same vein they also talk of subjects distant to the knowledge of their listeners. Lo and behold! Let anybody utter even a single word of the subject, and they would immediately pounce upon the opportunity of showing themselves men of great knowledge. Also, these people have another habit of bringing others to their pitch by alluding to their favourite subject. And if the listener takes the bait, then he would have it from them since they would not let the listener speak for a moment. Now the ‘target’ has only one way of ‘getting rid’ of the knowledge man, and that is, either he has to leave or somebody arrives to change the subject. After some time, one will find the newly-arrived gentleman in hot waters since their formula approach would be enticed him to their pitches. The third types of fakes are best at name dropping. Earlier, their usual claim used to be about showing the listener that they were well-connected, and frequent big houses without any hindrance. Now they have reached another level of eulogising those big names, and if anyone dares to contend their assertions or contradict the speakers, it can set the perfect stage for conflict. Remember! Such people do not value others, and in their heart of hearts, believe that others are good-for-nothing fellows. They love to find faults even in those people who are respected in the society, or otherwise they are at least higher achievers, more than the ordinary. This psyche has become a disease now, which could become an epidemic one day, especially in a society like ours. Life would be certainly far easier if we try to be what we are, and keep ourselves within our limits, while depicting ourselves to be the same!

Saturday, September 13

Incapable rulers!

The worst problem of the rulers is their lack of vision, which emanates from their incapacity to work and inability to carry out plans even if they are provided with viable solutions. When the above-mentioned malady afflicts them, they opt for cheap heroics of visiting the disaster-hit areas, getting pictures printed while standing in knee-deep waters. One can see this happening since decades. Even today they have not opted for sustainable development and projects which could benefit the masses. Short span projects seem to be their priority. In continuation of this is the method of payment made to the affectees, and now everybody is expecting money after a disaster. This must be stopped immediately, and planning should be given priority.

Social and financial disparities to stay ….


Social and financial disparities are to stay in any society, and if it is checked, its first casualty would be struggle, and when the latter happens, every society would get stagnant and its individuals would lose the urge to be successful in comparison to others. Perhaps this was one of the basic reasons that communism breathed its last because of its own ideology though external factors did play an important role too. People who profess to bring equality in the society would completely fail since it would be against the law of nature though everyday one finds a lot of people, especially the politicians, sermonising people about bringing equality among the masses. However, societies prosper where everyone is treated equally whenever the question of law arises. Criminals, whether rich or poor, influential or statusless, should be meted out the same punishment in the courts and treatment in prisons. Whenever, disparity occurs in the judicial dispensation, societies become pervert, and the result is of people joining groups, which ultimately become mafias of all hues – business, land, religious and finally political. The same can be observed in Pakistan where one find grouping of all colours, and somehow they are respected in the society. Even national political parties are actually groups-from-groups, and consequently, our society, especially national politics, has become umbrellas shielding criminals, who join these parties to gather more mass. Also in the same manner, business tycoons have formed their groups, who are further supported by people having comparatively small business holdings, and this trickledown effect goes to the small shopkeepers in the streets of the residential areas. These groups are then further seen spiraling their support to the upper ladders, which are of political nature. Now these mafias have become so strong that no government either dares to control them or put a check on them since they are either part of the ruling coterie or are hugely funding these political parties. Now the ruling parties opt for specific policies which would benefit their coterie sitting in their ranks. Even Special Regulatory Orders are issued from time-to-time for a stipulated period so that the ‘targeted’ beneficiaries could become richer. Hence this has become a vicious circle, which grills anyone who comes to put either halt it or put a check on it. Nevertheless, any person sitting at the top position with little interests can tackle them provided he has a team willing to make amends.

Friday, September 12

Respect begets love …. An end to differences

Differences among human beings are primarily because of lack of respect since we have started believing more in professing love instead of practising respect. We rarely honour others in pure intention, and if there is any, it is carries with it an ulterior motive, which is usually materialistic. That is why one sees this ‘fake honour’ withering or eliminating totally after certain time because by then, either the objective has been achieved or has been defeated. Also, this ‘social love’ has become a routine among close members of any family unit. People can be seen adoring their family members, and pronouncing it publicly as well, but we rarely find people showing respect to each other. This results in differences as a routine, but because of love, these are mended after some time, depending upon the intensity of the conflict. If they would respect each other, certainly differences could be minimised, if not eliminated. The element of respect is rarely found among siblings and life-partners; that is why they are quarreling among themselves, while couples parting ways, even if they had spent decades together, while breathing in the same pace. The parents must teach their children to respect each other as well, besides being an example themselves. The same is true among friends as well. In our culture, it is believed that any friendship is not fast if level of frankness is not touching brims of hurling abuses and calling friends with ugly names. Respecting each other can add years to the friendship, and love too. Succinctly, in all relations respect should be given priority as the first step, while love would be a natural outcome.